Mind Dé Gap™

Drizzles of Wisdom from the Pen of Grace and Unconditional Love. The Musings of Michael Ojuola

​On How We Confront Our Existential Dilemmas – Søren Kierkegaard

If you marry, you will regret it; if you do not marry, you will also regret it; if you marry or if you do not marry, you will regret both; whether you marry or you do not marry, you will regret both. Laugh at the world’s follies, you will regret it; weep over them, you will also regret it; if you laugh at the world’s follies or if you weep over them, you will regret both; whether you laugh at the world’s follies or you weep over them, you will regret both. Believe a girl, you will regret it; if you do not believe her, you will also regret it; if you believe a girl or you do not believe her, you will regret both; whether you believe a girl or you do not believe her, you will regret both. If you hang yourself, you will regret it; if you do not hang yourself, you will regret it; if you hang yourself or you do not hang yourself, you will regret both; whether you hang yourself or you do not hang yourself, you will regret both.

This, gentlemen, is the sum of all practical wisdom.

The True Eternity lies not behind either/or but ahead of it.


On The Thinker and His Thoughts

Alan Watts Says: “To remain stable is to refrain from trying to separate yourself from a pain because you know that you cannot. Running away from fear is fear, fighting pain is pain, trying to be brave is being scared. If the mind is in pain, the mind is pain. The thinker has no other form than his thought. There is no escape.”

The 10 Commandments of Confrontation – John Maxwell

John C. Maxwell: “People don’t care how much you know–until they know how much you care.”

1. Do it privately, not publicly.

2. Do it as soon as possible. That is more natural than waiting a long time.

3. Speak to one issue at a time. Don’t overload the person with a long list of issues.

4. Once you’ve made a point, don’t keep repeating it.

5. Deal only with actions the person can change. If you ask the person to do something he or she is unable to do, frustration builds in your relationship.

Do you care enough to confront people when it will make a difference?

6. Avoid sarcasm, sarcasm signals that you are angry at people, not at their actions, and may cause them to resent you.

7. Avoid words like always and never. They usually detract from accuracy and make people defensive.

8. Present criticisms as suggestions or questions if possible.

9. Don’t apologize for the confrontational meeting. Doing so detracts from it and may indicate you are not sure you had the right to say what you did.

10. Don’t forget the compliments. Use what I call the “sandwich” in these types of meetings: ComplimentConfrontCompliment.


An elephant and a dog became pregnant at same time.
Three months down the line the dog gave birth to six puppies.

Six months later the dog was pregnant again, and nine months on it gave birth to another dozen puppies.

The pattern continued….

On the eighteenth month the dog approached the elephant questioning, “Are you sure that you are pregnant?

We became pregnant on the same date, I have given birth three times to a dozen puppies and they are now grown to become big dogs, yet you are still pregnant. Whats going on?”

The elephant replied, “There is something I want you to understand.

What I am carrying is not a puppy but an elephant.

I only give birth to one in two years. When my baby hits the ground, the earth feels it.

When my baby crosses the road, human beings stop and watch in awe and admiration, what I carry draws attention. So what I’m carrying is mighty and great.

Dear friend, whenever anyone tries to mock you or your dream just because they can’t see results yet.

Let them know that there is greatness within you.

Remind them that it may be slow, but it is sure and it is extraordinary.

Most importantly, don’t ever stop working on birthing that greatness within you… no matter what they say… no matter what you see… no matter how you feel.

Be unstoppable.


Learn to Listen to your Vision’s Instructions by also learning immense patience and discipline.

You cannot expect to sow a Cocoa Seed 🌱 and expect the harvest to come in the timeframe of Maize 🌽. 

One is called a cash crop because it clearly generates more revenue than the other. And it takes longer time to reach harvest. 

When you’ve written your dreams/visions/aims/objectives/aspirations/goals, by careful analysis, you will know when to expect the results you’re seeking and the quality of hard work you need to put into it in other to get the expected result.

Leverage all your energy in bringing your “pregnancy” to term and please DON’T RUSH THE PROCESS.

Your friend,

Michael Ojuola

Life Coach|Transformational Speaker|Marketing Expert|Blogger|Human

On The Government

Alan Watts Says: “What is government? Government is the boot. The boot steps here and there, careful to avoid a blade of grass, to nurture it, coddle it, water it. The boot spots a snail heading toward its grass – slowly, surely. The boot smashes down on the snail and twists and laughs at its squelching noises, its last grasp for breath. The boot seeks a new snail – heading slowly toward the blade, sometimes simply minding its own business entirely – and smashes it too, like the first. The boot goes on and on – smashing, twisting, smashing, twisting – until finally it tires too of the blade of grass. The boot stops for only a moment and twists itself back down toward these carcasses lying about its yard. ‘How sad,’ it says to itself, ‘that some otherworldly spirit, possessing me, could do this!’ It goes to take a step, lets down onto the ground, and feels a dead snail. It instantly picks itself up, feeling proud – not that it will not stomp the snails in the future, but that it at least is starting to feel remorse for their deaths. It smashes the shells and bodies of hundreds of thousands of millions of snails, only to understand its weakness as originating from someplace else entirely; and then it has the audacity to smash even more.”

Resolve To Remain Strong

Rhonda Byrne says: “Resolve to remain as strong, as determined, and as highly enthused during the darkest night of adversity as you are during the sunniest day of prosperity. Do not feel disappointed when things seem disappointing. Keep the eye single upon the same brilliant future regardless of circumstances, conditions, or events. Do not lose heart when things go wrong. Continue undisturbed in your original resolve to make all things go right… “The man who never weakens when things are against him will grow stronger and stronger until all things will delight to be for him. He will finally have all the strength he may desire or need. Be always strong and you will always be stronger.

On Love and Peace

Alan Watts Says: “The startling truth is that our best efforts for civil rights, international peace, population control, conservation of natural resources, and assistance to the starving of the earth—urgent as they are—will destroy rather than help if made in the present spirit. For, as things stand, we have nothing to give. If our own riches and our own way of life are not enjoyed here, they will not be enjoyed anywhere else. Certainly they will supply the immediate jolt of energy and hope that methedrine, and similar drugs, give in extreme fatigue. But peace can be made only by those who are peaceful, and love can be shown only by those who love. No work of love will flourish out of guilt, fear, or hollowness of heart, just as no valid plans for the future can be made by those who have no capacity for living now.”

On The Certainty of Uncertainty

You Need Clarity not Certainty in Life

Don’t think in terms of how to turn everything into something else. Learn how to see everything for what it is. For this you need clarity. If you need clarity, you need an unclouded and unprejudiced mind, a mind which is not in a state of confusion, but in the lap of consciousness. That mind will see everything as it is. Once it is like this, if you want to turn everything into an opportunity it’s up to you, or you can enjoy it as it is. The greatest possibilities in life are its uncertainties. – Sadhguru

On the Beauty of Being Alone

“What is needed is that you become aware of your aloneness, which is a reality. And it is so beautiful to experience it, to feel it, because it is your freedom from the crowd, from the other. It is your freedom from the fear of being lonely.”

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